Pray, Tell?

The number one problem in marriage is communication. Statistical studies prove the truth of that fact and statement. Communication is also a problem for families, businesses, and friendships. Is it any wonder than that we find this same problem within prayer?

Here are some statistics on prayer:
- An average prayer lasts under five minutes.
- 10% of Christians pray daily.
- 52% of people who pray do so several times a day.
- 59% of Christians are not satisfied with their prayer life.
- 21% have extended times of prayer with other family members (spouse, children, relatives).
-33% of Christian adults regularly participate in a prayer group or other meeting that has a focus on prayer.
-29% of Christians say grace before every meal.
- a 2005 Gallup Poll found that 15% of church goers are committed spiritually to prayer and service within their church community.
- a 2007 Barna Poll revealed 37% of Christians claim no one modeled for them how to pray or received only limited teaching on prayer.
- In 2006 Christian Life Today polled 150 Protestant churches, a study revealed that in 69% of the churches that only the Pastor or Leader prayed during corporate prayer time.

How can a marriage survive if there is no communication between the bride and the groom? It can't, plain and simple. We, the Christian Church are the Bride of Christ. Jesus Christ is the Groom. As believers, we are in a marriage covenant with Christ Jesus. We seldom take this to heart and keep this fact at the forefront of our minds.

Prayer is our conversation time with our beloved Lord. It is where we pour out our hearts to Him. Where we confess our sins, our wrongs. It is where we learn and discern His voice. It is where He speaks to us and reminds us of His love, provision, protection, receive His forgiveness. It is an interactive conversation. Many believers have only one way conversations and seldom tarry or wait in prayer to hear what His voice says. Oh the troubles we can avoid by waiting for direction and healing! Many see their relationship with God as a big Santa Claus in the sky when they pray. Think of it this way. If you hardly ever talk to your spouse throughout the year and spend time with them, do you think if you give them your Christmas list that you'll receive anything special? Yes your spouse may love you and you may get a gift or two, but how much more and special would the gifts be, had the relationship been nurtured on a regular, daily basis?

Think about this believer in Christ, someone prayed for your salvation. Someone prayed for the seed of faith to grow in you. Someone prayer for the Baptism of the Holy Spirit for you. Was not God faithful? Were not those answers special, refreshing and meaningful?

American Christians have unsatisfying prayer lives and seldom see miraculous events because we don't know how to wait on the Lord in prayer. We treat God like a fast food restaurant. We want to place our order and have it our hands in two minutes otherwise our eye is on the exit door to go somewhere else and get served quicker. If God answered like that, how would our faith grow? Yet, that's how we act in prayer too. "Lord bless my day and give me a parking spot right in front. Amen." There's seldom the thought, "God, what do want me to do today for you?" Or a prayer like, "Jesus, I invite you into my day. Help me do YOUR will today. Empower me with Your Spirit and empty of my will today?"
God help us. Holy Spirit bring us to our knees before You. Let our hearts hunger for You.

Saints of God, Family of God, let us fall down together on our knees. Let us hear the voice of God in prayer. May we yield our will to His. There is much power in prayer and therefore much we miss out and deprive ourselves of because we fail to give ourselves to prayer.

This quote by Corrie ten Boom tore into my spirit and agreed with my soul, "Don’t pray when you feel like it. Have an appointment with the Lord and keep it. A man is powerful on his knees." May we all take heed. Amen and Amen.

Let's communicate with God every day.

Low and Lifted Up

Today we see many people who promote themselves, trample on others' feelings, shoving others out of the way to get to the front of the line. Kinda like Black Friday at an electronics store. We see many who manipulate others to get their way behind the backs of innocent people. Any CEOs from Wall Street around? Some gossip and slander the good names and reputations of others, making themselves look good and the innocent persons bad. I don't want to dis lawyers, but isn't this one of their key tactics? This is personified on today's reality shows like The Apprentice, Survivor, The Amazing Race, The Bachelor, Big Brother, and the whole genre. Some cheat their way to the top. Steroids anybody? Some kill their way to the top like former Cuban Leader Fidel Castro, current North Korean Dictator Kim Jong Il, just to name a few of dozens who have done so. This is the "ME" generation we're living in. We are a society of narcissists. It's all about "ME" being high and lifted up, speeding "MY" way to prominence while bludgeoning over others. It used to be divas were women but we now have male versions too. It's a crazy self absorbed world we live in. These warped and self centered attitudes have become apparent in church through the years. All of a sudden everything has become about us and how comfortable we are and not about humility and lifting others up, even if we are uncomfortable and out side of our comfort zone. God help us!

Jesus didn't give us the example of a comfortable, me first life. He humbled Himself and became man. He washed the feet of His disciples. He gave up His will for the will of His Father, God. Nah, I don't see anything comfortable in being born in a manger where animals lived. In growing up and living in Nazareth, a low income village, a town where nobody wanted to be known for living in. A town where no one thought anything good could come from. After all He was God who became man. He could have chosen to live in Jerusalem instead, but then, how could he be acquainted with every type of person in every type of circumstance? I don't think it was very easy and comfortable knowing one of your inner core of friends was going to betray you and rob the till. How comfortable could it be when people ridiculed Him and cursed Him? It surely wasn't comfortable and easy to be whipped, beaten, punched, blindfolded, stripped naked, mocked, have your beard plucked from your face, forced to carry a cross in public, bleeding, skin bare to the bone, tripping and falling, thrown down and nailed to a cross and publicly humiliated. Yeah, that sounds pretty safe and comfortable to me.

He did it all for love. Even though He knew many would neglect Him. Many would make promises to Him and break them a thousand times over. He did it out of love even though many would choose not to believe in Him but let's them make that choice on their own. Yeah sounds pretty selfish to me.

Nah it all sounds to me like the way He taught was all about humbling ourselves in service to Him and others through actions. It's not really about us and how comfortable we feel. It's not about getting all the glory for ourselves. But if we follow His lead, He will lift us up in honor. Wouldn't it be a great experience to be lifted up and exalted by the One who loves us so much and created all things! What an awesome reality for those who follow through!

1 Peter 5:6

"So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor." -New Living Translation

We misunderstand the word humility. If we didn't get it yet by the example of Jesus, let's take a look at how E.M. Bounds defines humility, "In humility there is the total absence of pride, and it is at the very farthest distance from anything like self-conceit. There is no self-praise in humility. Rather it has the disposition to praise others. "In honor preferring one another." It is not given to self-exaltation. Humility does not love the uppermost seats and aspire to the high places. It is willing to take the lowliest seat and prefers those places where it will be unnoticed."

In other words it is not today's mantra of being high and lifted up, which is what God is, so in essence today's mantras are putting man in the place reserved only for God. Our mantra for ourselves should be "Low and Lifted Up by God," just like Jesus.

I'll end with this powerful statement also from E.M. Bounds, "God puts a great price on humility of heart."

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Porn Kills

I have just been amazed lately by the staggering numbers of people who struggle with pornography. Not just those in the secular world but even within the church.

Here's some staggering info for you:
March 20, 2007: At a men's summit in Oregon before 2,000 men, Shelley Lubben of Shelley Lubben ministries challenged those who were struggling with porn addiction to stand. 30% rose to their feet. She immediately challenged them a second time, with the result that some 70% were standing.

April 6, 2007: 70% of Christians admitted to struggling with porn in their daily lives. From a non-scientific poll taken by XXXChurch, as reported by CNN.

August 7,2006: 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year; and 20% of the church-going female participants struggle with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis.
From the results of a ChristiaNet poll reported by Marketwire.com

In December of 2000, the National Coalition to Protect Children and Families surveyed 5 Christian Campuses to see how the next generation of believers was doing with sexual purity:
48% of males admitted to current porn use
68% of males said they intentionally viewed a sexually explicit site at the school .

A 1996 Promise Keepers survey at one of their stadium events revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved with pornography within one week of attending the event.

In 2008: Out of 81 pastors surveyed (74 males 7 female), 98% had been exposed to porn; 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website.

In his book, "Men's Secret Wars", Patrick Means reveals a confidential survey of evangelical pastors and church lay leaders. Sixty-four percent of these Christian leaders confirm that they are struggling with sexual addiction or sexual compulsion including, but not limited to use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, or other secret sexual activity.

A 2007 poll showed: 34 percent of female readers of Today's Christian Woman's online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll.

In March of 2002 Rick Warren’s (author of the Purpose Driven life) Pastors.com website conducted a survey on porn use of 1351 pastors: 54% of the pastors had viewed Internet pornography within the last year, and 30% of these had visited within the last 30 days.

72 million: The approximate number of unique visitors to adult websites in 2006, per month, worldwide.
420 million: Total number of porn pages.
40 million: The number of U.S. adults who regularly visit porn websites.
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2007 Survey of divorced people: Of the 50% who get divorced in America, 70% of those marriages had one spouse who struggled with pornography at one time or another.

Please pray for those addicted, those whose marriages are torn apart by porn, those in the industry, and for those who are leaders. Pray for our nation.

Shalom,
Frank